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I also have some medical problems, like PCOS and terrible allergies. find out if I was his and 2.) So my dad was told and he called me and said "I always had suspicions but this doesn't change the fact that you're still my daughter and I still love you.". She got surprise results as 50% Ashkenazi Jewish (which we are happy to know! God bless 23 and me for finally holding women accountable. Seriously. This subreddit is not affiliated with 23andMe. The moral dilemma is completely on your mom, and you have every right to share this information with your dad if you so desire. Our father is unfortunately passed, but we’re meeting in person in April. I trust my wife. Talk about shocked. Many, many of them do and it should scare the hell out of men everywhere. She admits my dad doesn’t know. I already knew my ancestry, but you can’t get the health info without it so I was along for the ride. No affiliate link spam is allowed. None of that is really relevant to your current dilemma, I was just objecting to the other person calling the man who raised you a step parent. Not sure how long I’m going to keep it that way. I wasn’t in a hurry, my kids are still small and they’ll be fine if I go a few weeks or months without that info. I think this subs makes way too many assumptions. Things. So ... That is what it means here in America, unless you think religions or political parties are racial groups. My dad raised me since I was born. Definitely have a relative who can stay with him. Technically, if his name is on her birth certificate, he is her legal father (despite not being her biological father), not her stepdad. They all support the criminal behavior of deceiving men into raising children not biologically their own. I’ve been there, it happens. I am second guessing everything I know at this point. In. https://www.reddit.com/r/23andme/wiki/reports, 23andMe: Ruining Lives When you Least Expect it. I have three kids. I tend to agree with the notion that adoptee rights groups have, that it should be a human right to know whether or not one's parents are biological. For individuals who have purchased the US-specific/international "Ancestry" test on or after September 21, 2016, you must pay a $125 upgrade fee to have access to the new (FDA approved) health reports. It may have started out based on one, but that history is yours and it's real. Family goes beyond blood; just because you don't share genes doesn't mean your 30 years of love is erased or has been a lie. This video features 3 true horror stories sure to scare you. My sister begins receiving responses from my mother, while still on the phone with me, and reads them aloud without screening the content and says: “I didn’t want to cause anguish for nothing in case it went the other way”. Same thing happened to me at the age of 28. In France, you could face a fine of around $4,000 USD for taking one. It is absolutely insane the amount of women who endorse criminal deceit and use bullshit excuses to do so. He’s going to be home alone the next few days. At the end of the day, this isn’t your fault! Hey - at least you learned something today you My mother just found this out too, today, could you PM me group? [–]Poptech 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (1 child). Works of concept art or any other fundamentally altered visual representation regarding design or feedback of results are allowed, but MUST BE PROPERLY MARKED AND INDICATED AS SUCH IN BOTH THE POST TITLE AND IMAGE. OP's father did not fill the role of a step-father, he filled the role of a father. A few months ago, I was contacted by a first cousin who had just sent in her DNA. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child). I really hope things turn out ok for you guys, it sounds like you have a good relationship, [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children), Thank you, I feel the same way. We have no clue how he’s gonna react tho. The only person to blame is her mom, for keeping it a secret all these years. [–]Doogle89 10 points11 points12 points 2 years ago (3 children). In some places, commercial tests are banned. You can't be a "step" dad if you are legally the father. He kept accusing me of libel and used an ESL dictionary to make his case. [–]GraceStrangerThanYou 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (2 children). My mother knew I was getting the test done and never said a word to me. [–]neverJamToday 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children). [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (1 child). ", the way I see it meaning: what if you were biologically related to the man that raised you, then no one would have to know what Ive done. [–]bigotis 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child). You can find them by searching NPE groups, and it's surprisingly a lot more common than you would think. PM me if you would like info on how to join. I’m in the process of getting my PhD in biology/engineering and I have a heavy genetics background. I'm going to confirm that my 3 y/o daughter is actually my genetic daughter, just to be sure ;). It happens ALL THE TIME. And she has a right to know about her biological family too. My mom told me my dad wasn't my biological father when I was 7 or 8 years old. Everytime I read these stories, they make me angry. He's her father. Unless you have an identical twin somewhere, that genetic makeup is unique to you. So, medical info has been very important to me. Agreed. Hey guys, I am adopted from Moscow Russia and trying to figure out what my birth parents are. [–]houseofweenies 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child), I’m glad nothings changed between you two btw. I later found out he didnt know anything. Luckily I was able to find out another way, since there are not any relatives from my biological father's side on the DNA relatives list. Fast forward several months: Amazon has a sale, I get my kit and send it in. The cheaper ancestry-only test returns the exact same raw data as the health+ancestry test - the only difference is that 23andMe's reports on health aren't included. Apparently their parents were engaged before my mothers mom married her husband, and clearly there was some overlap. Idk I guess I’ll just overthink this whole thing forever lol, I hope I’m kidding. codegen.eu is a decent free alternative to Promethease that gives you much of the same information. share. Your mother’s lies did. I suppose I can’t be too sure if anything at this point. Try to give your mom the benefit of the doubt and assume she has made her choices with the best intentions. I belong to a support group on facebook for people going through the exact same thing you are going through. I instantly know that this doesn’t add up. My sister is on the phone with me and jokingly texts my mom “you have some explaining to do”. I believe only the relationship with my mother is going to change. My mother did the same. The health reports you will receive (or have received) from 23andMe differ depending on what chip version you were tested on, when you were tested, and what country you were tested in. The daughter (my aunt) was given up for adoption and we connected through the test. Need a male relative of father to achieve this goal. Failure to abide by this rule will result in a permanent ban. All this to say, the man who raised her, who fufilled the legal responsiblity of the male parental role, is her father not a "stepparent" because step implies that there is no legal obligation to parent the child. Having said that, this man is your father. Regardless of your results, he has raised you as his child and you both love each other. That is ludicrous. That's a good point. Not a horror story but I got a bit of a shock. Over the last year I've been doing a lot of digging after getting some pretty surprising results. “ I’ve been searching for my father my whole life and through 23andme I just found a half-brother, finally answering the question. Yeah. Turns out my mom separated from my dad for a very brief period of time. Ignore the downvote patrol who are here encouraging you to lie to your dad. No Fake Results. Your stories inspire us and inspire others! Part of me thinks if she tells him now, he will kick us both out of his life. You won't change minds with your current technique. Mitochondrial DNA is a completely separate entity from any of the chromosomes. Though it shows me as having more DNA from Ireland than England, and surprise German :). *I do not believe 23andMe ruined my life, I believe my mother did. [–]moorethanafeeling 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (2 children). I felt he had the right to know and made my mom tell him, he's devastated of course, but, at least now I don't feel like Im a liar. Your mother has messed up but the damage is already done. I bought him the ancestry and health kit from 23andMe. He is still your dad. No one calls adoptive parents "step parents". You’re right. He's her legal father, just like an adoptive father is not a "stepdad", he's the legal father. It's astounding to see how some women defend this. [–]Doogle89 13 points14 points15 points 2 years ago (7 children). My older sister has a different father and she told her when she turned 13. Females can't get information on father's side. Of course she does I am not surprised. Key differences shed light on the brutality of slavery. [–]Poptech -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (0 children), [–]rawbface 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]rawbface 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (2 children). My fiancé wanted an ancestry kit for Christmas. I hope other happy families don’t take the dna kit holiday deals and find out bad news like this. [–]Doogle89 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (10 children). [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (0 children). But again, I’m not in their position so not my choice to make. Just worth them thinking about this because once the decision is made, they can never take it back. by Farrah Penn. No one in my family ever had seizures. be a parent to me. I also have an older and younger sister. He's not her step-father. 1. My sister is fine. [+]Poptech comment score below threshold-7 points-6 points-5 points 2 years ago (8 children). Promethease is by far the best third-party data analysis tool, but there are many others out there to choose from. I do not believe in criminally deceiving men by lying to them about the paternity of their children. [–]peppermintplant 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (1 child). [–]GraceStrangerThanYou 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (0 children). Sex chromosomes, X and Y, are not the same thing as mtDNA. I can't imagine what your going thru so all I can really say to you is stay strong. [–]Serious_Tour -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (0 children), Once you understand women's motivations, it is easier to get what you want from women (and get along with them better). My daughter is 10 and has been having mental health issues so I know how that is. [–]Freckled_daywalker 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (16 children). She is appearing on "Dr. Oz" this Wednesday Oct. 3rd if you or your mom are interested. 2.9k. The law doesn't require you to be the biological parent to assume the role of legal parent. I never had any reason to believe he wasn’t my father. Apparently my Mom was black out drunk but did semi-remember the guy but her friend told her she didn't do anything and a month later, things were better in the marriage and they were pregnant and very excited. He does this all the time. I know people here are only trying to help. [–]peppermintplant 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (0 children). Both my parents don’t know I met my bio father and half brothers. The real big thing will be with your mom and dad and how they choose to handle it! [+]Poptech comment score below threshold-8 points-7 points-6 points 2 years ago (0 children). I let her tell me what her truth was, but as she spoke she kept contradicting herself. So, apparently my grandmother must have still been seeing her prior partner, even after she married my non-birth-grandfather. I believe I cannot explore biological relatives without my dad knowing the truth. Are you sure your father doesn't already know? So far, nothing has changed between us since hes known. <3, [–]houseofweenies 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children), My mom now feels like she has to tell him bc it’s “just a matter of time” before someone slips up & she doesn’t want him finding out from anyone but her. Sometimes I can’t help but think keeping things quiet is the best way to go. Yes I guess I do have a "different view". BuzzFeed Junior Writer. I was adopted, too. 23andMe's test is autosomal, plus sex chromosomes, plus mtDNA. [–]Doogle89 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (2 children). Thank you. I email my mom my results (finding it all funny at this point) and call my sister to tell her what I just received. And neither do you. [–]bigotis 14 points15 points16 points 2 years ago (3 children). I don't know how many here are in this situation that you and I are in. Good luck and I wish you and your family well. Cool to finally pinpoint ! I am sorry to hear your mom caused you this much pain but you are not alone, women have been causing these devastating situations for years but no longer can get away with it. thanks, yeah I sent her a link to the atlantic article and the NPE foundation, although my mother doesn't use Facebook, nor do I. I'm pissed at my grandmother for not telling my mom. ... help Reddit App Reddit coins Reddit premium Reddit … I know they're my kids. Now that I knew the truth, I knew I had a responsibility to myself and my dad who raised me. [–]Kudzu56 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (2 children). Many. Unlike the horror stories you have heard, we will never tell you anything you don’t want to know. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (3 children). "Step parent" is almost exclusively used for someone who is filling a spot that would normally be held by a legal parent. Her step dad has a right to know he has been lied to you people are unbelievable. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]Poptech 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]mom-genes 27 points28 points29 points 2 years ago (0 children). This is not your fault, and it's not your dad's fault. Anyone else get a shocking/life changing 23and me result. She shouldn’t have to carry her mom’s secret. As an adult having my first child soon, I can't think of anyone I'd like to emulate more than my dad. If he ever finds out, please remind him that you are his daughter and this news doesn't change how you feel for him. They decided not to get a test done when I was born because they were both going to be my only parents no matter how the test turned out. But he raised me from the time I was a little and in every single way that matters, he's my dad. Please kindly suck a dick and stop commenting you mong. [–]GonnaKostya 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child). Punishment is ultimately down to moderator discretion. That's not how it works, dude. This rule does not prohibit user discussion, questions, comments, mentions, etc. They have come this far with the mothers deceit already and have a fine relationship. You can pick and choose the knowledge you want and you can utilize the knowledge however you like. AncestryDNA and 23andMe have both updated their chips since that post was written, AncestryDNA's new v2 chip has massively improved coverage of health-related SNPs (better than 23andMe v4 for the most part, although they of course do not provide health reports), and 23andMe's new v5 chip covers an entirely different set of SNPs than any of the previous versions do. In this article, I'm going to take an in-depth look at three of the most popular DNA testing services: Ancestry, 23andMe, and Living DNA.All three have interesting stories to tell. When we ran our genetic files through Promethease and looked at the probabilities for our then-future child, he had a 1/4 chance for carrying the most optimal genetic combination for becoming a psychopath. Ive take many tests and they break things down a lot more than this but I am curious on your thoughts. I did not have the greatest childhood, and now I find out that there was another man trying to find out if I was his for a long time. lets not forget there is another human being involved, who has emotions, and would like to know if he has a child out there. [–]smeggysmeg 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (1 child). ... Story was published in the Chicago Tribune on 3 MAR 1944, page 18. [–]bigotis 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (6 children). [–]Poptech -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (14 children). Blehhhhh... sorry to rant, I just know what it feels like to love someone so much but to feel like to keep them happy, you should just pretend you know nothing. Step parents have no legal rights. At first I felt guilty, but through therapy I came to know that I have nothing to feel guilty about. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (3 children). Beat me to it! [–]Poptech 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children). My mom said if it's truly ruining me psychologically we can tell him but she's scared. I’ll have to try Promethease. You didn't just get the whole concept wrong, you even got the details wrong. 23andme DNA test is of autosomal DNA. [–]neverJamToday 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (1 child), Ancestry's test is autosomal-only (though I think they do include sex chromosomes in the raw data, they just don't parse them, so you can sometimes get a rough Y-DNA haplogroup estimate, but not an mtDNA haplogroup from the raw data.). I'm so sorry this happened to you and you're having a hard time processing the information. This new found information is never easy for anyone. 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